By Dr. Don and Debbi Dunlap
Pastoral Counselor
When we discipline our children we must remember that we represent Gods discipline to them.
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We read in 1 Timothy 3:16, 17 that God uses Scripture to
teach us, reprove us, correct us and train us in righteousness. These four
purposes for the inspired Word of God have direct application to the parenting
process.
We must remember that our highest goal in disciplining our
children is not simply to modify their behavior. Instead, we want our
discipline to reflect the discipline of the Lord. Our desire is that
ultimately, our children will be thoroughly equipped for every good work in
Gods kingdom.
We reviewed purposes #1 and #2 in the previous article. In
this article we continue to examine the final two purposes listed in 1 Timothy
3:16, 17.
3. Correction This process involves applying
scriptural principles to specific life situations when a child disobeys, or
when he or she violates or neglects Gods Laws or commands. We read a warning
in Proverbs 10:17, He who heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever
ignores correction leads others astray. We should find examples in the Bible
that are related to the specific offense the child has committed. Then we
should give the child some specific, practical steps that he or she must take
in order to remedy his or her situation.
4. Training in Righteousness When we train
our children in righteousness, we teach them to develop biblical disciplines so
that they will grow consistently in the Christian life. We teach them the
elements of scriptural prayer and we pray with them and for them daily. We ask
them to pray aloud as soon as they are old enough to talk.
We teach them the principles of obedience, and we help
them memorize scriptures that remind them that above all, they are to obey God,
their Creator and Father. As they grow, we assist them in developing ministries
of service to other people. We go with them and help them carry out these
ministries.
We oversee their church involvement, remembering that God has
charged parents, not church leaders, with the responsibility of the spiritual
nurture of their children.
Then, when they reach adolescence, we begin to prepare
them for the joys and demands of their future marriages and families. In
Ephesians 4:22-24, the Apostle Paul offers parents great encouragement and
guidance, as they seek to train their children:
You were taught
to put off your old self, which is being
corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your
minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness
and holiness.
We must urge our children to make any necessary sacrifices
in order to live righteous and holy lives.
Dr. Don Dunlap, a pioneer in the placement of Pastoral Counselors in the
offices of Christian physicians, has conducted over twenty thousand appointments
during his ministerial career. His counseling practice includes adults,
children and families in crisis. Dr. Dunlap is committed to facilitating a
network of telephone counselors. His goal is to provide help for the many
people unable to meet face to face with a competent Bible-based counselor. For
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